Incel is the Inverted All-Purpose Insult That Whore Used to Be

Concern for men's suffering? In my mass media? I think not!

Last week, that venerable stronghold of shitlibbery, NPR, tackled the male loneliness epidemic, though mostly to wave off concern about it. “Those evil men think they get a raw deal sometimes??? Nothing to see here!” The current affairs show It’s Been a Minute dedicated its featured segment to the issue with the headline, “The men's loneliness epidemic might not exist.” Ugh boy, here we go.

Is the men's loneliness epidemic overblown? There's been a lot more attention on loneliness in the past few years, with special attention on men's loneliness. And some men definitely are lonely: according to a recent Pew survey, 16% of men say they're lonely all or most of the time. But so are 15% of women. So why are we so concerned about men?

For liberals, there’s no more urgent call to action than making sure that any amount of cultural momentum or sympathy for men or white people as a group is immediately snuffed out. Look no further than country music, which over the last couple years has seen a surge of popularity. With Democrat media over the last 12 months, it’s been a non-stop exercise in overhyping Beyonce’s gimmicky country album, and in some corners making the laughable suggestion that black people invented country music. Can’t let whitey have anything. Can’t let men have anything.

Despite occasionally paying lip service to it, liberals don’t care about correcting income inequality or making sure the masses have health care. It’s all about cramming their identity reductionist narratives into every corner of American life - anything to keep people from talking about economic class - and pinning all the blame for the world’s problems on the identity groups they hate. The way Democrats were frothing at the mouth at Hispanics for voting for Trump in the last election should dispel any notion that they actually care about any of these minority groups they constantly patronize.

Progressives love to flatter themselves with their omnipresent slogans about kindness, and maybe that means something to some of them. But luckily they have their lying media apparatus there to tell them on what issues they can safely withhold that precious kindness. Several years ago, that issue was cancel culture. Despite the fact that people were having their lives ruined often for ridiculous “offenses” the media made sure to propagandize that cancel culture, at least when liberals were the ones destroying people, was only ever about consequences and accountability for serious misdeeds.

Now as far as loneliness is concerned, I’m not under any illusion that it is exclusive to men. We live in an atomized society with few third places that don’t revolve around spending money, intense competition for dwindling resources not controlled by elites, and a ruling class that wants to divide us by any means necessary. There are lonely people of all stripes.

If there has been recent concern for lonely men, it’s noteworthy because men as a group almost never receive sympathetic attention from mass media or cultural institutions. Most of the time, it’s outright antagonism. Women, meanwhile, have zero problems getting media and institutions to launch moral panics on their behalf. It’s become a cliché for so-called journalists to frame every issue, including ones seemingly divorced from gender war battles, as blights on womanhood. “Egg prices continue to soar, women most affected.” Sometimes women just make up stupid sounding terms and the shitlib media runs with it. Perhaps you will recall the freakout over “lovebombing” a couple years ago? If you don’t, consider yourself lucky.

Oh, wait a sec, how does liberal media like Huffington Post react when black women complain about loneliness?

Interesting! Now all of a sudden if black women aren’t getting laid, it’s vile, wicked misogynoir and it demands all of our attention. When men express desire to be touched, they’re screamed at about how they’re entitled creepy losers who should probably kill themselves. When the black kweens demand it, it’s apparently downright bigotry not to give it to them.

If this woman were treated the way men often are when they talk about loneliness, here’s what she might expect to hear:

Hey, you stank-ass skank, why don’t you work on getting more attractive instead of bitching on the Internet? Try going outside, getting a hobby. Make yourself more engaging to people. Clearly you’re deficient in some way. What, you think men owe you sex? You disgusting pig. If you want to touch someone so bad, go make out with one of billionaire Beyoncé’s sweat shop laborers. You love her, right? Bootlicker. Maybe do us all a favor and unalive yourself. Femcel freak.

You get the gist.

In contemporary gender politics, a man doesn’t actually have to be lonely or sexless to get called an incel anymore. Frequently, whenever a man tries to advocate for his own gender or speak out against the cultural double standards that disadvantage him, he’s labeled one by spiteful women who wish to silence him and know the term still carries a stigma. It’s not uncommon for a married man with kids to get called an incel by some retarded female chauvinist online.

Like any term that gets seized by online discourse, incel has lost all meaning. At one point, it meant an adherent of a dangerous and violent ideology but now it’s merely any man that liberal feminists are upset with. Once upon a time, it was sufficient to smear their enemies as virgins, but I guess that didn’t have enough of a political valence to it.

In that way, incel as insult has become an interesting parallel with the way women could be lambasted decades ago. In the ‘80s, ‘90s, and 2000s, it wasn’t rare to hear a loutish man refer to any woman he didn’t care for as a whore, and that was generally culturally accepted, if a bit crass, the way the incel stuff is now. “Why don’t you get lost, you WHORE,” would be a semi-serious dig by a dickhead dude who knew he could exploit a once-favorable double standard.

Of course, slut shaming is nowadays a big no-no in any setting where liberal culture dominates. In fact, women are now celebrated for being whores, or rather, “sex workers.”

That might be part of the reason why these women and their favored media are invested in waving off any concern of male loneliness. These OnlyFans “sex workers” are basically preying on them, exploiting their loneliness to extract as much money as possible. And yet, all the cultural judgment and shame is on the customer. It’s like considering a drug dealer the most virtuous profession in the world but being a user as morally reprehensible.

Women have complete control over heterosexual relations and still self-victimize constantly. They can destroy a man’s life for little more than an unwanted advance, except the man often has no way of knowing it’s unwanted until he tries, and most women still insist that men make the first move. Women can openly objectify men based on height, can be explicit about it being a potential dealbreaker, but if a man expresses a preference in bra size or weight, he’s somehow the most sickening creature to ever walk the earth. Post-MeToo, young women complain that Gen Z men are too timid to approach them, as though there isn’t a very good reason for that.

If you’re a man simply existing in public by yourself, you’re instantly tagged as suspicious. Mothers with strollers not-so-subtly get their guard up around you, even if you do nothing to arouse concern. God forbid if you happen to be traveling the same direction as a strange woman. You can count on periodic stink eye as she assesses whether you’re a threat when you’re just trying to mind your own business. Maybe you’re a man out walking your dog, and that furry little companion is enough to defuse alarm that you’re some kind of roaming assailant, but what happens nine times out of 10 if a woman you don’t know interacts with you? She gushes over your dog and pretends you’re invisible. So no matter what you’re this unwanted thing. If you’re a man with a vibrant social life and a family, you can probably brush off these demeaning interactions. But if you are a man dealing with loneliness, such repeated slights can steadily gnaw at you.

A couple weeks ago, I saw a DSA member post something on X that got traction along the lines of “every four years we have to choose between the Ku Klux Klan and Lockheed Martin.” Even that comparison is too generous to the Dems. DSA fake-socialist wokie types love to foster the belief that, as much as the corporatist Dems repeatedly let them down and betray them, only the Republicans are truly capable of bigotry. That’s bullshit of course. The only real difference is the Democrats have better PR, though who knows how much longer given how quickly the public is becoming disenchanted with legacy media.